It's this idea of fashion and what's "in" and what's "not". Many people have this simplistically complex idea of what is fashionable and what is not. Recently, thanks to the hip hop culture, the idea of labels have been commercialized and whored into us “common folk” lives.
There was an incident a few months back with the rap artist Maino and, video modal, Rosa Acosta. I heard about Maino disrespecting Rosa on her "cheap shoes". Listen to the Audio here:
Umm… Yeah… First off I’m so disgusted by men calling women “bitch” as a term of… whatever it’s supposed to represent, but that is another topic.
Anyway, when I heard about her responding, I thought it was going to be an ignorant rant about how much "louis, gucci, & fendi" she owns... but surprisingly, she said the COMPLETE OPPOSITE. Watch a clip (from 2:00 to 4:20):
I was pleasantly surprised by her response because I always laugh, in my mind, when I think of women in the LIME LIGHT. You think of these women as materialistic opportunists who "use what they got, to get what they want" *in my Ronnie, from "The Players Club", voice*. I'm glad her response was real.
I am a fan of bargain shopping. Anyone who knows me knows I will have a HARD time letting go of my money unless it says "SALE" or I got a promo code (for my online shopping ^__^). Now this is not because I'm broke. The truth is, I rather see my money in my BANK ACCOUNT than on my feet, back, or bountiful booty.
I grew up in "the hood", so the census bureau says, but I had a fly mother. She taught me, from an early age, the ART of dressing. It has NOTHING to do with the label on an article of clothing; it has to do with the PERSONALITY of the person. If you can spot an item that's true to your idea of personal expression and who you are, it will transcend the typical stigmas put on you by society. If it's hot, it's hot.
Do you know how many times I've been asked:
“ooooohh! Girl! Where did you get those shades? Where did you get that dress? Shoes?" etc
"On the street from an African man". Seriously, I buy most of my shades from the African men on the street, but I digress. Lol!
I will shop anywhere and everywhere. I buy my clothes wherever I see something cute. I am never, and have never been, hemmed up on "a name".
Call me arrogant but I feel like this: Who the hell told Versace his name was better than mine? For all of that, I need to print my name on the back of some clothes and sell it to you people. Shoot, I got loans to pay...
Don't get me confused, I am a LOVER of fine fashion. If I were surrounded by some Chanel, Louis Vuitton, Chloe, Giambatista Valli, McQueen, Thierry Mugler, Hermes, Oscar De La Renta, Prada etc. pieces they would send me into an epileptic shock so bad I probably wouldn't recover. I love fashion. I immerse myself in it as much as I can; it keeps me open, sane, thinking, and constantly inspired.
As much as I love fashion, to base a person’s sole worth on how much of these things they have is foolish. People come with stories and nine times out of ten, you dont know someone's just by looking at them. It's sad when social stigmas and a lack of "sense of self" determines how and where you will spend your money.
I believe in living within your means. If you have to starve for a purse, get threatened with an eviction notice for some shoes, or pick between feeding your baby and your new car... chances are, your priorities are a more than messed up *DIALS CHILD SERVICES*
Having money in the bank is amazing... I love the feeling. There's nothing like looking at your bank statement and saying "mmm.. Yes. You look PHAT!" I say that every month and i'd like to keep saying it. You think i could get that feeling from looking at my Louis Damier Canvas bag? Nope... Well, okay, maybe not from the damier canvas, but that Suhali or prefall Aviator can sure make a girl think some things *giggle*.
In short (well not really short), please stop basing your self-worth on what you, or the next person, wears. Ladies and men need to re-evaluate who YOU are and ask why you buy the things you buy. Does it make you happy because you like it or because others like it?